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How to Deal with the Pain of Uncertainty and Insecurity

Do you feel stuck?

Do you feel insecure?

Do you feel fear of uncertainty?

With COVID-19, the whole world stepped into murky waters of shock, fear, sadness, feeling out of control, and insecurity.

That’s very normal.

If you would’ve told me that you are doing great, I wouldn’t believe you. No one is doing great in this stormy situation.


Many people lost their jobs and loved ones.

Many people are drowning in worry and panic attacks.

Many people don’t know how to turn off the worry.

You watch news multiple times a day, and anxiety sinks into your heart deeper and deeper.

You feel despair.

You can’t see the solution.

You are out of control.


The pain is inevitable, suffering is not.


How to handle feeling out of control 

Let me remind you that you are the leader of your life. Please write it down and post it on your bathroom mirror.


You are the leader of your life!


You can control your thoughts. Maybe it doesn’t feel that way right now but believes you have more power over your thoughts than you think.

If you haven’t read The No-BS guide to Mind Detox, read it now, here, so that you cultivate a positive mind.


I’ll show you an excellent exercise that will help start focusing on solutions, not problems. It’s very simple but extremely powerful. It can change your life for the better.




How to thrive in tough times

But before I do that, let me share a compelling story about Victor Frankl with you.

In his book Men’s Searching for Meaning, he describes his experiences as a prisoner in Nazi concentration camps during World War II.

He went through horrible times. The only thing that kept him alive was thinking about his wife and their reunion after the war.

His wife was already dead, but he didn’t know that. He learned, much later, that Nazis had killed his wife and parents soon after they were captured.

His focus was on identifying a purpose in life to feel positive about, and then immersively imagining that outcome.

Frankl concludes that the meaning of life is found in every moment of living; life never ceases to have meaning, even in suffering and death.


I use his quotes as guidance in challenging times.


“When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.”


“Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.”

Isn’t it a good reminder for all of us to choose our thoughts and attitude in the current health and economic crisis?


Now, let’s do the exercise I promised you earlier.


Warning! You might end up blissful.


A powerful exercise that will change your life for the better

Remember: You are the leader of your life. You choose how you want to play the game of life. Play it joyfully. This. Is. Important,


Now, take two sheets of paper and on one sheet, write down all the things you can’t control.

Here’s what I wrote: 

  • I can’t control the COVID-19 spread.
  • I can’t control the unemployment rate.
  • I can’t control how many clients I’ll lose.
  • I can’t control health and economic crisis.
  • I can’t control other people’s behaviour.
  • I can’t control how many people will die.
  • I can’t control the government’s decisions.


On the other sheet of paper, write down what you can control.

Here’s what I wrote:

  • I can focus on solutions and opportunities.
  • I can brainstorm the possibilities and think outside the box.
  • I can serve my clients more compassionately than ever before.
  • I can program my mind for success.
  • I can learn new things.
  • I can update my website (that I’ve been putting off for a long time)
  • I can exercise twice a day.
  • I can read more books.
  • I can daily meditate and visualize my future.
  • I can watch the news only once a day to reduce the negativity coming into my life and still stay informed.
  • I can listen to inspiring and motivational videos.
  • I can watch Trevor Noah and laugh (he’s my best stand-up comedian).
  • I can watch comedies.
  • I can follow Arnold Schwarzenegger on Instagram (if you don’t know, he’s been my role model for a long time).

Now, burn or tear the first sheet of paper where you wrote down the things you can’t control.

Look at the second sheet of paper daily (the things you can control) and focus on doing at least one item on that list every single day.


No excuses, do it now. I promise you it’ll change your life.

Let me know what positive effects this exercise had on you.


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